Lasagna: Valentine’s Day Thoughts

I have been married for nearly 40 years, to the same woman. So I think I have learned a few things about what it takes to have a lasting relationship. If I could sum up what I’ve learned in 40 years of mostly blissful matrimony in one word, that word would be lasagna.


The explanation of what it takes to make a marriage endure and flourish is summed up in lasagna. Lasagna takes time, effort and creativity. It appeals to all of the senses and embodies a demonstration of true love.

Were I to expand on that one word I would tell you of the importance of patience, kindness, selflessness, forgiveness and truth. Say “I love you” often. Do “I love you” oftener. Hug, tightly. Hold hands in the car and walking down the aisles of the supermarket. Let your kids see you kiss and hear you call each other “honey.”

Do each other’s chores without being asked. Call in the middle of a random weekday just to say “Hi.” Drop a romantic greeting card in the mail for no particular reason. Find a hobby you can share. Give up control of the TV remote.

Come home early, unexpectedly some afternoon and make a romantic dinner. And to make it extra special, go ahead and bake that lasagna.

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